Tessa

Some people journal. I blog with a little more swearing.

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Wild-hearted. Well-worn. Always learning. I write to connect, heal and remind us we are never alone in the mess.
Now I don’t need a garage full of cars But I’ll take a whole box of Cuban cigars And I’ll smoke ’em nice and slow Like they were good for me Don’t need a ranch or a big piece of land But I like to get a little bit of dirt on my hands Keith Urban – Little Bit Of everything

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  • When I feel like it (to every damn day!).

    Your hobby deserves more than leftover time and energy. Here’s how to stay disciplined without losing the joy, so you can actually see progress and love every minute.

  • Be a Menace.

    Ever wake up to a 10-pound cat demanding breakfast at dawn? That’s my morning, followed by a dog stealing my bed and a doomed scroll through social media. I’m a sleep-deprived goal girlie, fueled by pre-workout and weights to stay sane. But lately, I’m done chasing “perfect” goals or pleasing everyone. I’m embracing my inner…

  • Running on Fumes.

    Didn’t sleep last night and now you’re surviving on caffiene and chaos? You’re not alone.

  • New Chapter.

    A New Chapter: Short Stories, Substack, and Best Fiends Hi friends, If you’ve been here a while, you already know I believe in the power of a well-told story. The kind that lingers. The kind that catches you off guard and makes you think, Wait—what just happened? That won’t be changing anytime soon. But today,…

  • Recover

    Hi. I’m Tessa. I’m a recovering people pleaser. I say I’m in recovery because even though most days I can stop the intrusive thoughts that make me pause before asking a question or simply telling someone no; I still have to have a good talking to with myself. I feel that slight panic and the…

  • Grown up

    When did you consider yourself a grown up? I keep waiting for that answer myself. I mean I do what society considers grown up things. Do I consider myself a grown person? Even while I am raising one to be a grown up? No. No, I do not think I am grown. Let me explain.…

  • Transition.

    I have been having a rough go of it.  I am just going to say it. My personal life has been in , well not the ditch exactly, but ditch adjacent.  There is so much good in my life. My transition to momming from afar to the most well adjusted child is going good. I…

  • Forward.

    I haven’t been here in awhile. I had lost my muse or my will to write anything. Writing takes time and your brain has to create space for the imagination. For me that means space without stress or pressure, and unfortunately for me; space has been rare to find. Unforeseen pressure is always character building.…

  • Strange.

    I mispronounce words. A lot. Or enough that it becomes noticeable. It could be that my tongue just gets in the way and it sounds wrong. At any rate, I have noticed my whole life I don’t say or see things the same way others do. I don’t fit in. It could be I am…

  • Dishonest.

    I’m a little disappointed in myself. I would like to think I am a pretty smart person, but than I look back on the stupid things I’ve done and I realize I need to follow my own advice. Especially when a number of people around me take the time to say something to me. The…