The bubble bath felt like I was cheating on all my responsibilities. It was warm, inviting, and with just a push of a button I could have my very own Jacuzzi experience. That was too loud and not at all relaxing, so I turn it off and sink a little further into my bath.
Insistent meowing at the door followed by a light scratch of a paw trying to get in brought me out of my day dream.
“Go away. No. Stop it.” I said at least three times before getting my bubble covered body out of the water and drip all over the floor to open the door.
I am not sure why I bother to close it. I sink back in the tub. My furry family members gather and find their seats. I sigh.
There is no such thing as alone time for me. Does it sound like a pity party? It is. I am forever being torn in four different directions while being told I do have alone time.
Fall means school and activities. I love it. I enjoy being social. I don’t like to sit in my head and be alone all the time. We were made to be social and supportive. Not to sit on the end of a sofa and stare into our phones; checking all the social media and left feeling more isolated.
I push the button and the whirling starts once again. My cat looks down in fascination with the bubbles.
“Hey mom.” she calls from the end of the hall, ” I want to…. ” And she begins to tell me about her big birthday plans. That is two months away.
“How’s your bath?” he stand at the door way before coming in and pushing the button. “we need to get you one of those bath pillows.” He’s being helpful.
I love my little puzzle pieced together family. I really do. But they need to leave me the hell alone for fifteen minutes. I am pretty sure it can all wait. The big ideas and plans. I push the button and sink. Letting the rush of water fill my ears and not hear anything. Not feel the guilt pull me back to the surface.
The door closes and I feel bad. I feel bad for wanting silence of a bath. I feel bad for not wanting to listen or engage in their ponderings right at this very minute.
It can all wait. They can all wait. All of it. The cleaning I know I should be doing, the folding of laundry I know I need to do, the text messages I feel I need to respond too and the things I know that still need finished. Boxes need unpacked. Bills that need to be paid.
I sigh and hit the drain on the bath watching the water immediately beginning it’s descent. I watch it wistfully. I don’t know when I’ll be back. I am trying to schedule it in for longer than fifteen minutes every other week. I take a deep breath, dry myself and open the door.
My muscles are a little more relaxed and my mind a little less cluttered. The animals greet me. All wanting attention. And most likely food.
“Mom can I have ice cream?”
“Hey Tess? when you come down can you bring some gelato?”
I open the freezer and smile.
“yep. Be right there.”